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Just love me or leave me alone.

WARNING: Highly volatile goods enclosed

29 November 1981
This LJ is more for my benefit than yours. More often than not I will write things so vaguely that even the subject is lucky if he figures it out.
There is one rule: Never bitch about what I write.
This is my journal and used for my benefit. No one is asking you to read this, so if you don't like what I have to say, or decide that I am too pitiful and messed up for your tastes, then don't read it.
"Animal (that best describes me)? Probably a cat. I'm finicky and want attention and to be left alone at the same time. I want to be stroked and played with but I'll (seemingly) randomly hiss and swat." ~una_waiting

Interpersonal Effectiveness Cheerleading
* It is OK to want or need something from someone else.
* I have a choice to ask someone for what I want or need.
* I can stand it if I don't get what I want or need.
* The fact that someone says no to my request doesn't mean I should not have asked in the first place.
* If I didn't get my objectives, that doesn't mean I didn't go about it in a skillful way.
* Standing up for myself over "small" things can be just as important as "big" things are to others.
* I can insist on my rights and still be a good person.
* I sometimes have a right to assert myself, even though I may inconvenience others.
* The fact that other people might not be assertive doesn't mean that I shouldn't be.
* I can understand and validate another person, and still ask for what I want.
* There is no law that says other people's opinions are more valid than mine.
* I may want to please people I care about, but I don't have to please them all the time.
* Giving, giving, giving, is not the be-all of life. I am an important person in this world, too.
* If I refuse to do a favor for people, that doesn't mean I don't like them. They will probably understand that too.
* I am under no obligation to say yes to people simply because they ask a favor of me.
* The fact that I say no to someone does not make me a selfish person.
* If I say no to people, and they get angry, that does not mean that I should have said yes.
* I can still feel good about myself, even though someone else is annoyed with me.