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TV show rant [Oct. 31st, 2008|05:46 pm]
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I don't know if any of you watch Dr. Phil, but his show this past Wednesday, I have something to say about that and can't be arsed to sign up to post on the boards.
On the show, they said that 20% of "gender confused" children grow up to remain in their chosen sexual identity. The first "guest" was an 8 year old girl, born male. The mother was very supportive of the child's decision and allowed her to go to school dressed as a girl and refered to her child as a female. The second "guest"'s child went through the same thing (at the age of 8) but was now 16 and decided to live as his biological gender. They took this kid as an example and said to the first parents "what if this happens to your kid?" You know what? I agree with the mother about supporting your children and their choices and accepting them for who they are. What if that child is part of the 20% who remain cross-gendered? From my non-professional yet slightly educated opinion, I found a lot of evidence was provided to support this possibility. A lot of people on the show were saying that the parents are responsible for raising their children to act accordance to their gender, to live within their biological sex while still participating in their interests. I think in most cases this is good general advice, but to force your child to be someone they're not, I don't believe that is positive and healthy parenting.
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[User Picture]From: 980iana
2008-11-01 01:37 am (UTC)
There are a lot of misconceptions about transgendered people out there. I don't see the problem with treating a child as their chosen gender. If they grow up and change their mind, so be it.
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[User Picture]From: nineveh_rains
2008-11-01 05:03 am (UTC)
That's pretty much what I was trying to say.
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[User Picture]From: this_isa_lie
2008-11-01 10:10 pm (UTC)
I totally agree with you. You can't force your child to be something they're not. It ends with bad results. A lot of pain is caused. Unnecessary pain.
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[User Picture]From: xlife_n_deathx
2008-11-03 07:59 am (UTC)
I agree with supporting your child. You can't force your child to be what you want them to be. They are their own people. And if they decide later on that they want to remain their born sex, then I'm find with that too. It's their life and they have to live with their decision. It takes everyone time to come into their own and make these important, life-altering decisions. I would rather my child change their mind later on than for them to hate me for trying to force them to act "appropriately" for the birth sex. I don't want me child to feel hated, unloved, and/or misunderstood by me. And if they were my child, I'd love them regardless. I would just want them to be happy.

On another note, I hate Dr. Phil. He's a quack and has no business being a doctor of anything, much less a therapist (though they call them the-rape-ists for a reason). Also, I don't like Oprah. This is relevant because Dr. Phil started on Oprah. Everything she touches is not golden. In fact, if she touches it, chances of me wanting it are slim.
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[User Picture]From: nineveh_rains
2008-11-03 07:51 pm (UTC)
Yeah, I don't usually watch the show that much. I only even heard about it cuz one of my psychology profs was a fan. I never watch Oprah at all, but I did know he started on her show. The show is pretty much simply sedated Jerry Springer. But what talk show isn't?
Anyway, I was in Welland and had nothing to do all day, so that's my excuse. :P
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